When someone mentions setting “boundaries” these days I automatically think about a very high wall with a very large mote and crocodiles and leeches in the water, giving the message of ‘Go away I am not interested in anything you are selling”.

This absolutely does not have to be the case at all.  We can set some happy and healthy boundaries by thinking more along the lines of “loving disallowance.”

What does that even mean?

"Loving disallowance" is a term that refers to the practice of settin...